How We Prepare Your Perfect Ceremony of Marriage
WE WANT TO BOOK YOU - HOW DO WE GO ABOUT IT?
AS SOON AS YOU KNOW THE DATE AND VENUE
TO MAKE A BOOKING
We ask you to please fill in a form and pay £100 deposit to secure the date and set the ball rolling.
On receipt of the form and payment from you we send you a letter of confirmation clarifying the date, time, venue, fees etc. Together we decide when to begin the ceremony preparation.
THREE TO NINE MONTHS BEFORE
INFORMATION GATHERING - we send you some or all of the following to help you get clear as to what elements are important to you to include in your ceremony. It’s good to start this ceremony preparation process several months prior to the date of the ceremony if possible.
We offer these to help you reflect individually as deeply as you’d like on the step you’re about to take. We may use some of this in your marriage address to make it personal and about the two of you. You can email or mail your responses, or we can meet face to face or speak on the phone or Skype – whichever way you choose.
These are to help you think about every aspect of your ceremony to ensure you’ve thought of everything, to discuss and decide together. We only need one of you to feed back to us.
WEDDING RITUAL IDEAS
Ideas could be helpful to inspire some of the content of your ceremony. It’s helpful to know why you’ve chosen the rituals you’ve chosen – how they’re meaningful to you. We also need to clarify the ritual objects you might need to gather together or order in advance – perhaps a special set of candles for a candle lighting ritual, or perhaps a piece of the bride’s dress fabric, entwined with a piece of tartan from the groom’s kilt fabric, to make a cord for the handfasting?
WEDDING READING IDEAS
We have gathered together some ideas for readings you can choose from and you may already know what you’d like. We like to know why you’ve chosen the ones you have – what’s made them so meaningful to you. You can choose from a religious text or write something yourself, or find something from our selection or one of the hundreds of wedding websites out there.
WEDDING MUSIC IDEAS
We have put together some ideas for music – if wanting live music we might be able to help recommend local musicians if needed, or perhaps the wedding planner at the venue can help?
WORDS FOR PERSONAL MARRIAGE VOWS
We encourage and support you to choose or write your own vows and have lots of examples, both traditional and alternative, for you to choose from or feel inspired by.
WORDS FOR EXCHANGING RINGS
We have lots of examples of words you might say if you’d like to say something when you exchange rings.
CREATING YOUR CEREMONY
Once we have gathered all the information from you – personal information, a practical overview of the ceremony, and any ritual, readings and music you’d like and why - we have everything we need to begin creating and writing your ceremony. You don’t need to worry about the order and how the different aspects will fit together – that’s our job!
We give you longer to decide what you’d like to say if you’ll write your own vows – your vows and words for the ring exchange can slot in to the ceremony once it’s written.
GETTING YOUR APPROVAL
We produce a first draft of your ceremony. You’re welcome to come over and we read it through to you, or we can read it through over the phone, or more usually couples choose that we email it. You see how it lands with you and then we make any changes needed to ensure that you feel 100% happy with it – we give you final editorial control.
PLEASE NOTE we like to have the ceremony finished and approved by you at least one month before the date of the ceremony.
THREE MONTHS BEFORE
Three months before the date of the ceremony you must make your application for your ceremony to have a legal aspect. You make an application to the Registrar most local to where your ceremony will take place.
THE SEVEN DAYS PRIOR TO THE CEREMONY
One of you must attend the Registry Office in person to collect the Marriage Schedule which is the piece of paper we need to sign during your ceremony for your ceremony to be legal. We cannot begin your ceremony without this document.
WITHIN THE THREE DAY PERIOD AFTER THE CEREMONY
You or a family member or friend return the Marriage Schedule to the local Registry Office and the Registrar issues your Marriage Certificate(s). The start of your wedding bliss!!!